Stay-at-home-Yeti has been a professional motion picture and television screenwriter for the past twenty years, a stay-at-home-dad (SAHD) for over seven years, and a freelance journalist for almost five years now. And the simple answer is, yes, all three jobs totally suck.
Just kidding. But, they do have a lot more in common than you’d think. For instance, screenwriters and freelance journalists work mostly at home, so do SAHD’s. Screenwriters and freelance journalists keep crazy hours and are, as a general rule, tired all the fucking time. Same with SAHD’s. Screenwriters and freelance journalists are total shut-ins who can go crazy without regular human contact. SAHD’s are shut-ins who can go crazy without any kind of ADULT contact.
Oh yeah, the other major thing all three jobs have in common is that no matter how good we get at them, we always worry that we’re doing it all wrong and that someday everyone will see us for the total frauds that we are…or, maybe that’s just me. Either way, trust me, it’s a grind.
That said, when my wife and I finally got pregnant after five years of trying (and two soul-crushing miscarriages), I knew from the get-go that I would be the primary caregiver for our little girl. And let me tell ya, despite what you may read here from time to time, it has truly been the greatest adventure of my life.
It’s like nothing I’ve ever done and our little girl, Greta, is like no one I’ve ever known. I’m not kidding, there are days when I just stand back and weep at the glory of this amazing little person I get to spend my days with. I know it sounds corny, but, it’s true…I weep a lot. Especially nowadays.
And with tweendom looming darkly on the horizon, I know these days won’t last forever and I know too that I’ll miss the hell out of them when they’re gone, so, even on our worst days together — and trust me, there have been plenty of worst days over the years! — I try to remember how fleeting these moments are and find something good to take from them. Yeah, yeah, I’m a total girl…sue me.
I also have an awesome, crazy-supportive wife (who knowingly marries a struggling writer? Insanity!) a rocking, mostly-supportive extended family and many killer new mom and dad friends from Greta’s school. And although I haven’t been the most prolific blogger of late — this whole writing-for-a-living thing doesn’t leave much time for writing for fun — I have decided to try and post here more often, even if it is just super cute pics of Greta. If you’re interested, you can also check out my weekly IFE Film Review column for Runway Girl Network. I try and focus on cool, indie-minded films that might have “slipped through the cracks” in theatres and I review a lot of really cool foreign titles too, so, it’s kind of a dream gig for a big old film geek like me. I’ve also been traveling a bit for work, which I also love, but at the end of the day, the real joy in my life is making memories with my little Yeti and her mom.
So, that’s pretty much all there is to know about me. Thanks for stopping by!